Obsessive love shadows the usual sunshine love emits by Ning Shi, staff reporter
The little boy turns around as a sweet voice calls his name. A young girl with hazel eyes
runs up to him as her curly brown hair bounces every step she takes to get nearer. They briefly
make eye contact until he looks away, blushing, and struggling to maintain his crazy heart rate.
After a short conversation, butterflies flutter in his stomach as he realizes he has fallen in love.
According to John Mckee, psychologist in the Brooklyn Community of Health, “Love is
universally outside the force of physics which is uncontrollable and even unpredictable. Human
beings need love in order to mentally and emotionally grow in a world full of drugs and violence.”
Affection can be determined through different levels such as sibling love, romantic
relationships, friend to friend, etc. However, it’s ironic how a beautiful feeling such as being in
love can be wrong in so many ways.
“Love can be wrong when the person in love changes themselves and does things for
their lover which they won’t normally do,” said Lizbeth Zea, sophomore.
There are two types of love, one is based on mutual trust and care; the second is more
obsessive and clingy. Healthy relationships blossom when couples are allowed to take part in
their personal matters without problem; whereas, in unhealthy relationships, partners tend to be
full of jealousy and limitations.
In an obsessive relationship at least one partner can’t settle down unless their
girlfriend/boyfriend is with them 24/7. According to howtodothings.com, some warning signs are
when he/she often develop misunderstandings, force intimacy upon their lover, disregard any
boundaries, detection of every single detail, and codependent personalities.
“I know someone that would stalk, text and call the guy every chance she got. The only
conversations she have are about him and how she’s going to marry [him] and break [him] up
[with] his current girlfriend,” said Stephanie Troumouhis, junior. “I honestly think that she needs
help. It’s fun to have a crush but there’s a limit when you’re obsessed.”
Arguments and breakups are common in a relationship but when someone is plagued
with addiction, they tends to hide from the truth. They often plot revenge on their exes to deliver
their pain of the breakup toward them. According to easyweb.easynet.co.uk the obsessed
person has fears of losing the person he/she is in love with so, they are willing to do anything to
prevent fights or disagreements.
The partner being controlled often distances themselves from their family and friends. As
time goes by, they feel disconnected from their loved ones because of always being with their
obsessive partner.
side bar: Make the outreach for help
Counseling is available for anyone who has encountered the unfortunate problems of a
disordered relationship. Teenagers who are confused can visit medicinenet.com to accurately
distinguish between healthy love and obsessive love. To receive relationship therapy, seek for
Park Avenue Relationship Consultants. To make an appointment, call PACR (212) 289-0295 or
to email them through their website at relationship-consultants.com.